Open Marriage or Open Escape?

Some say open marriages are about freedom, trust, and exploring love beyond boundaries. But what if one person’s “freedom” is just a license to hurt the other? When openness turns into secrets, avoidance, and silence, it’s not freedom—it’s betrayal dressed in modern words.

Marriage—any marriage—needs honesty, clarity, and emotional safety. You start noticing the signs—locked doors, late nights, cold shoulders. No help at home. No effort to work. No emotional presence. Just distance.

It gets worse when the person stops working, takes money without sharing, spends it without care, and treats the partner like a wallet, not a human. Just blame, avoidance, and silence.

You try to speak, they skip the conversation and suddenly, you are the villain. You express pain, they call it drama. You're bossy for asking questions. You're dominant for expressing your needs. You're possessive for wanting honesty. You're self-obsessed for wanting love and respect. The roles flip, and suddenly the one who’s hurting becomes the one blamed.

They bring in illogical justifications to hide their own actions. They speak of “space” when all you've given is room. They speak of “freedom” when all they want is escape. And when they run out of reasons, they run away from conversations too. Out of commitment. Out of accountability. Out of the emotional investment marriage actually needs.

They gaslight. Twist. Flip. Praise turns to blame. You become the problem, just because you refused to stay silent.

Open marriage isn’t the problem when both are honest, respectful, and aligned. But when it becomes a tunnel for one to escape all responsibilities, it stops being a relationship and becomes a one-sided arrangement masked as modern love.

Let’s be honest—open marriage, or any marriage, cannot survive without transparency, respect, and emotional accountability. If one partner is always hiding, avoiding, or blaming, then it's not a relationship. It's a stage where one acts and the other suffers.

You can’t build a partnership where one is always defending, explaining, or holding it all together. If being honest makes you the villain, you’re in the wrong story. You're not difficult. You're just someone who refuses to be used.

"When they can’t use you, they start naming your strength as flaws."